Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological preparation for sex, expectation of pleasure and the immediate physiological response of the body. It is useful for every woman to know how this process occurs in men and how to accelerate arousal.
Where does it all start?
Excitation onset is evoked by a variety of sensory stimuli. A girl's scent, kisses and touches, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the centers in the brain that transmit signals to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. American sexologist and part-time 4th director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, Dr. John Bancroft claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree to which a man is excited. This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal. "
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and block the venous outflow, thus the penis becomes hard, enlarged (3-4 times on average) and a pulse is felt. Usually such a reaction occurs within a few seconds after sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, the erection may weaken and become stronger again - this is absolutely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20 thousand men. The dimensions of their genital organs were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average penis size at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection it is 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them - at night (spontaneous) - occurs without sexual overtones. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of stimulation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – occurs as a result of touching the penis. Because this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and blood flow in the penis.
In addition to the erection, the man's pulse quickens, his breathing quickens, and his blood pressure rises (as does the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and denser, and the testicles become elevated. The upper body turns slightly red. A lubricating fluid is released that facilitates the passage of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful picture (a naked woman or dressed in lace underwear, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it so that arousal is as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Belly (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay, in most cases, begins with kissing. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put the guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips, it also senses the sexuality of its partner and predicts upcoming sex. At this moment, you can stroke the occipital area with your hand, this area is also very sensitive. Many men enjoy kissing and biting their earlobes, but you need to be careful with this, as there are those who categorically dislike this process.
The lower abdomen is an excellent area for caresses before oral sex (below the belly button). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, it can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair and bare chest.
Everything is clear with the genitals - any movement in this area is welcomed and causes sexual arousal in men. You should be careful about sudden movements; men may fear for the safety of their honour. Oral sex, manual techniques - all this maximizes the partner's desire. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which you can caress with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from a few hours to a day) than women to rest and fully recover after sex, because the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual stimulation may not occur quickly in all men, and this should be understood.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you are first stimulated psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a little-known question for most people. What does science say? He sees arousal as a physiological sexual response.
More precisely, the first stage. So it's a series of processes. There are no gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilation of the pupils, redness and goosebumps, as well as erection of the nipples.
Psychological behavior, gaze and voice change with sexual arousal. This is because hormones that act like medicine on the body are released into the blood. In men, in addition to the above, there is erection of the penis, elevation, swelling and thickening of the scrotum towards the pubis, as well as the release of pre-ejaculation to lubricate the head.
In women, additional lubrication occurs, thinning or, conversely, widening of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), clitoral erection, elevation and expansion of the uterus, tension of the pubosacral muscles and increased lubrication. the length of the vagina.
By the way, if in men in rare cases a rash appears on the skin, in women blood flow occurs not only to the clitoris and labia, but also to the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so pronounced that the area between the chest and shoulders and neck may become red during and after orgasm.
Why so many reactions? These are associated with the blood flow that the body carries out to ensure greater sensitivity of the genital organs and preparation for sexual intercourse, which is the second stage of the cycle of sexual reactions. After the arousal phase, there is a plateau phase (sexual intercourse), an orgasm phase, and the completion phase of sexual reactions.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is usually a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disease in which erection power is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
Erectile dysfunction in most men is associated with the organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood flowing to the organs and hormonal levels deteriorate.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking certain medications, especially those affecting the central nervous system and a sedentary lifestyle, the blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, so the main reaction of sexual arousal in a man does not occur - filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and cigarettes affect not only the physical condition, but also the psychological state, so impotence turns from an organic form into a mixed form. You cannot delay this situation, you can easily fix it at first. You need to see a urologist or sex therapist.
Men become sexually aroused much more often than they reach orgasm. Prolonged abstinence can cause serious harm to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women's favorite slogan "we will excite you and not let you" is good in moderation - you should not overuse this type of entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical but also mental health. The man becomes tense, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is almost no difference in how it is achieved during sex or masturbation.